What have I learnt so far after having two kids….
1. Time. The absence of time for yourself. You thought that had vanished with just the one child, but nooooooo, have a second one to really twist the knife.
2. Conversation with your partner. This just doesn’t happen unless its arguing on which kid you want to deal with that evening.
3. Meal times. We used to sit down and enjoy a meal together after our toddler had gone down, chat, catch up, have a glass of wine. Now we eat at separate times. On our own. Playing on our iPhones.
4. Leaving the house. Again, you may think this is a mammoth task with one child. It really isn’t. You organise yourself, you organise them… and leave. Two kids that can’t be left in the same room as each other (yet) is a different story. Getting yourself ready deserves a medal. There is impeccable timing required with sending one for a wee and changing the others nappy, making sure the baby is fed and every possible change of clothing thought of, and actually leaving the house in the 30 minute window you were aiming for. If you pull this off you are superwoman.
5. Sleep. Whats that.